Letter To Victims of Domestic Abuse

Welcome to our Domestic Violence Support Page. We have set this page up as a way for the victims of Domestic Violence to share their stories. As well, as to provide you with some valuable insight on how to get through these hard times…

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A Letter From The Owner & Head Life Coach of Crazy Beautiful Life Solutions

I am aware of what being a victim of mental and physical abuse can have on you personally, emotionally and physically. I have put this page together because I do not believe there is enough information out there regarding this subject. Nor do I feel the support provided is at the standard it should be.

There is a large platform of sources and information out there but from experience, I specifically understand its not enough. Most victims of abuse genuinely suffer in silence, we lack confidence, and just in general fear the outcome of what will happen if we reach out for help.

For what ever reason it maybe that holds you back in these situations, sometimes you may feel you have no way out or enough support to make that jump. Maybe you do not want to burden anyone with your problems. Believe me when I say I have been there and I understand the pain and suffering behind it!

Let Us Help You…

Even, if we are the first step in your journey toward peace and happiness. We are happy to be that listening ear that does not judge you or shame you for what ever it is that you have experienced!!!

Many pages and sources do their best to give the victim ways to run and flee their situation. Others, may rally with support to assist you in letting your emotional side out while you survive or put together a plan of action towards peace and happiness. While some may help out by allowing you to share your stories and rants while providing information on how to achieve a successful extraction from such hardships.

Which Ever Way of the Above, Helps You To Find Peace In Your Current State. It Is Just One Step Away From Helping You Make One More Step!

The thing I find sad about Domestic abuse, is even though it is a reality in life. Many people do not understand it. They may not understand why the victim stays around or continues to accept their situation. The truth is many people find it easy to judge the victim of Domestic Violence before judging the actual abuser!

You maybe asked these questions or have remarks made to you such as:

  • Why would you take that abuse and still stay?
  • What is it that is holding you back?
  • Why do you remain loyal?
  • I would never take that type of abuse!
  • You must like it, if you stick around!
  • Maybe He / She Deserves it?
  • Well, what did you do to cause your partner to act like that or treat you that way?
  • This Is My Favorite One ( WHY DON’T YOU JUST LEAVE?)

This is a small lists of questions and remarks you maybe facing if you are a victim. The simple answer to all of the above questions and the response to all of the remarks that I know you would love to say goes a little something like this…

YOU HAVE NO CLUE, HOW HARD IT IS TO THROUGH AWAY A LIFE YOU WORKED, SO HARD TO ACHIEVE. NO ONE WANTS TO BE ABUSED, LEAST OF ALL ME! NO, I DO NOT LIKE IT, I DO NOT DESERVE IT AND IT IS NOT ACCEPTABLE!

But instead of letting your frustration get the best of you.

Just say if you care about me, instead of adding on the pressure and making me feel more embarrassed maybe help me find other options. I am in a hard situation but I am unsure of the best way to get out of it with the least amount of damage to my life possible..

When you are the victim of abuse metal or physical, it takes a lot to wrangle all the thoughts and emotions you deal with everyday!!!

You may feel broken beyond compare but I have created this page so you can see you are not alone and you do have options!

The truth, about being a victim of abuse is there is such a larger picture to the situation, then what really meets the eye. Maybe you are terrified of the unknown? Maybe, there is an issue that led to you being in this situation, in the first place? You see, not all abusers start off being terrible people. The majority of them are every day men and women, just like you and me. Maybe, you were in this relationship for x amount of time and one day out of the blue they hit you for no reason, with no explanation. Then, in disbelief you accidentally overlooked a huge sign of complication and then found yourself stuck.

I am not giving these explanations to you to enable you but merely to express my understanding that sometimes know the right next move can weigh heavy on your heart!!!

You Can Free Yourself From This Though If You Choose To Choose Yourself!

After a life time of good times or beautiful memories shared it is hard to believe that someone you loved and that loved you so dearly, could turn on you like a wild dog! Perhaps, they have an addiction, that sends them into spirts of abuse. Maybe, they were abused themselves and need help also? The things to consider in these situations, vary on so many levels. It is not always as simple as packing your bags and relocating. The thing is most people stay, due to fear of the unknown, lack of finances, lack of support, lack of confidence, loyalty to their partner, faith that their god will get them through it some how, a sense of pride, the list goes on and on! Although, at the end of the day no matter how much faith, love or loyalty we have we have to find a way to choose ourselves.

Now if you are able to find a way that works for you and your partner like therapy, counseling or even just working on your communication. By all means give it a try but when you decide or realize it is time to go make the steps you need to begin the process. Nothing is worth your life not even theirs!

Now Dear Victim Of Abuse Any Type Of Abuse 

 I plead with you to take a full account of your situation. Keep a log of the actions, taken on you, take pictures, and if you do this be safe with the information you keep. Make sure to tell a secure and reliable friend that is capable of keeping a secret. Just incase at some point you need someone to verify and back you up. So many times, these abusers get off because of our silence so please stop holding all of your pain and emotions in.

Do not let your abuser know, you are seeking assistance or building an exit strategy.

HERE IS HOW TO GET STARTED:

Step # 1 : YOU CAN LEAVE BECAUSE YOU ONLY DESERVE THE BEST!!!

If You Can Leave Now, Do So! If you are in a new relationship and you have nothing standing in your way but hope. Realize, that if a relationship is new and it starts like this than it is not something worth working on because the person you are with just has problems that are beyond your control!

Step #2: Self-Acceptance & Rationalization

For those of you that are married or just in general stuck… Save money, where you can and be aware of all of your surroundings, at all times! Learn your partners patterns and cycles so you are aware of when you should and should not say and do certain things. SEEK HELP, as soon as you are able to! Remember, NO ONE deserves being abused mentally or physically. You may have your reasons to stay but there is a better life out there, for you. With a structured plan of action, you can free yourself of this harm and all of the pain and suffering that comes along with it.

You may feel weak and like less of a person but the truth is YOU ARE STRONG! You may be scared of the unknown but maybe the unknown could be LESS SCARY then your actual situation. You maybe waiting, for a white knight to save you but the truth is, all the support in the world will not make you change your mind to leave, if you do not want to seek change. Especially, if you do not want to make the first step, to MAKE A CHANGE!

Step #3: MAKING A PLAN-of-ACTION

Taking your life back is not always easy but it starts with accessing your situation. Next, it is time to tell people you trust or a professional about your situation. Once you have opened up about your situation it is time to make a plan of action. As the process continues, it is your job to Take One Step At A Time To Find The Safety you deserve! All of the above will help you to Build Your Way Towards A Better Way Of Life.

Step # 4: If You Feel Unsafe Leave No Matter What The Cost Maybe

For those of you with children remember children see all and know all even if we think they do not. So what ever your reason is for staying make sure if you have children you are thinking of them first. They may need both parents but if one is not treating the other correctly that will have great affects on them in the future. So, set an example for your children that they should always stand up for themselves even if it mean you have to walk away from some one you love!

Always Remember…

YOU ARE WORTH SAVING ~ FEEL NO SHAME ~ BE SMART~ FIND STRUCTURE~ BE SAFE
MOST OF ALL FIND THE LIFE YOU NOT JUST DESIRE BUT DESERVE!!!!

Be Free To Live The Life You Deserve…

Please See Our Other Pages On Domestic Violence….

Are You Being Abused???

Are You In A Bad Situation & Need Help?

Do You Have A Loved One Experiencing Abuse???

Please feel free to ask questions or add any information you feel that could be useful to others in your situation below.

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